Recently, Emma Watson (of Harry Potter “Hermione” fame) talked about being “self-partnered” rather than single. This announcement, as the actress nears her 30th birthday is nothing less than a milestone, is what we think. “It took me a long time, but I’m very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered,” she said.
Shortly after, veteran actor and superstar, Asha Parekh, in an interview with Verve magazine, told that instead of getting married when she was younger, she decided to be self-partnered as well.
So what is this new trend here?
What is being Self-partnered?
Self-partnering means focusing on being happy and complete as an individual. A self-partnered person feels content and whole with themselves and would not seek fulfillment through another person as a partner.
Being self-partnered, however, does not mean that you cannot go out with friends or on dates, or be single lifelong. Even married people can be self-partnered.
Rather, self-partnering means that you have taken time to understand yourself. Easy as it sounds, understanding yourself and your needs is not as easy as it sounds. It needs a lot of time and energy for introspection and personality development.
Reframing the relationship status – is it trending?
Emma Watson is just one in the line of celebrities using terminology to describe typically negative relationship statuses. Popular actress Gwyneth Paltrow used the term “conscious uncoupling” to describe her divorce from singer Chris Martin.
So why are these age-old terms bring rephrased?
The newer millennials are discovering their individualities. They no longer want to be slotted in traditional roles but want to break the mould.
Terms like “single” and “divorced” carry a lot of negative connotation, especially in India. Mention that you are single, and at least a couple of aunties will try to set you up with someone, whether or not you are interested. When you say you are getting a divorce, you will be viewed as if you have arrived on Earth from some alien planet. Married people almost always fall in the habit of seeking happiness and validation from their spouses. In fact, many new mother’s go into postpartum depression because they suddenly realize that no one has time to spend with them.
Such labels, when replaced with phrases like “self-partnered” and “conscious uncoupling”, the stigma that is attached to them is automatically eliminated.
In short, it lets the world know that you are A-OK!
How to be Self-partnered?
Focus on your personal goals instead of always putting others ahead of you. Make out time for your family and friends, but not so much that you become dependent on them for your happiness.
It is easier said than done. Humans are social creatures and we constantly seek out others to accompany us in our journey. However, with practice and introspection, you’ll get there one day. And once you reach that point of being content in your own company, no one can make you unhappy.
Are you ready to be self-partnered? Share your views with us in the comments!
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